How To Upgrade Your Confidence Quickly

Are you praying for courage? To be able to influence others in an authentic way? THEN WATCH THE WHOLE VIDEO not just a third!!!!

In this video, I explain the one question that I asked God that propelled me out of delay and into double and triple results for my life. This is very simple identity work you can do in your life to make 2020 one of your best years yet. (And boy did I get a financial promotion from this work:) If this blesses you please LIKE the video and COMMENT!)

Let’s be confident this year and be used by God in our generation to do GREAT EXPLOITS!

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How To Determine Ahead If Your Audience Will Pay For Coaching

Have you been wondering how some people make money life coaching and others don’t? In this week’s FREE TRAINING I explain to you why some people can’t get traction with their business.  People happily pay for what they value and what they need so it is important you discover who really you can stay in business long-term serving. 

The truth is 42% of start ups fail just because they don’t assess the market need before they begin. I love to hear my clients tell me they feel led of the Lord to launch a coaching business but the truth is, even Rick Warren did market research before launching Saddleback church. (Like 6 months worth) 

You have to ask yourself this question: Are the people I want to help receive transformation in a place emotionally where they will GLADLY invest money in my fee’s. If not, you can coach but you won’t be able to really keep a pipe-line filled with enough of these clients for you to stay profitable. 

Now, here’s the challenge a lot of new to marketing coaches have. They want to choose for other people what they think is valuable for them and not just work with them on solving their current pain. 

This takes you thinking about the area’s of your life you have genuine confidence in (because you overcame it through Christ) and also what the majority of people want to solve at any given time. For example, let’s look at what people want to solve at the beginning of every year. Read this article about the top 9 things to know about the diet industry just so you can see where people’s mindsets are moving to since this is 71% of what Americans want every year! 

Here are the top 10 New Year’s resolutions according to a survey of 2,000 people in 2019:
  • Diet or eat healthier (71 percent)
  • Exercise more (65 percent)
  • Lose weight (54 percent)
  • Save more and spend less (32 percent)
  • Learn a new skill or hobby (26 percent)
  • Quit smoking (21 percent)
  • Read more (17 percent)

So, here are more questions to ask yourself as you grow your leadership and consider launching a business coaching. 

1. Do I understand how to recognize what clients will invest in my coaching or which one’s honestly I need to have something free going on to help them take the next step? If you are stumped here, you could attend my Mindset Retreat or you could sign up for either the Leadership or Business Training as both these programs include in depth training on how to recognize where to lean your coaching niche. People do go from free to fee all the time with me but I have a process in place for this to occur authentically.  If you don’t, I offer a very disciplined, homework required to stay in, free group that will help you become a bold influencer step-by-step.  

2. Can I discern whether I need to partner with some counselors or can I market my coaching niche directly to my ideal client? In today’s video I break down for you some basic’s of where you can begin to discerning whether you need to send your client to a counselor or if they have what it takes to for coaching. Watch that here. 

3. Am I willing to start leading a small group right now and begin to do market research? This is something I recommend to everyone who wants to grow in their ability to make disciples as well as fine tune their ability to cause people to take action. During this time I recommend you write down all your participants reason’s they joined your group, (pain problem) what specific life challenges they had during your sessions and what exact results did you help them achieve. Write all this down because as you become more serious about or your ready to launch your business or grow your ministry, you can use this information to identify your boldest identity zones of coaching and also the kind of people that are being attracted to you effortlessly. You will also want to get very specific testimonials from these individuals. 

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Abundance Thinking vs. How To Keep Your Faith Activated Until You See Results

Today I want to share with you how I keep my faith activated until I see results without abundance thinking or manifestation tools.  I had to grow my business after an identity theft for almost a million dollars and in the beginning of the great recession.

I’d be lying to say I didn’t feel completely d-e-s-p-e-r-a-t-e in the beginning. Some of it was because I wasn’t sure I had what it took to coach and be successful and then next do I have what it takes to grow and be profitable. Almost everything I found on mindset training early on in my business was abundance or manifestation thinking from a universal perspective. As in I visualize, I love myself and I expect the “universe” wants to send me blessings.

It was SO FRUSTRATING because I needed basic how to get leads consistently business training and the people I saw were either super hype, talk about me,me,me and my millions I have made for everyone, wine glasses in the air (like sign me up, she drinks wine and takes great vacations) or literally one with the universe people.  I literally found no one doing no cussing, no hype or non fear-based business coaching (that’s when you drive people with how they are going to miss out over and over again, or stay poor, naked and alone.) You laugh until you see it over and over again. Sigh.

And here’s the thing I never hear anyone explain and I might be the only one who had to solve this but honestly I think in the church we need to do a better job on pointing out what’s at the heart of all the abundance thinking. It’s idolatrous and I will explain to you why I think that and why I never would attend any business coach training that used this. Or at least twice:) I can eat the chicken and spit out the bones but don’t want to choke to death and pay good money for an underlying rip current to my faith. I think God has better for those who love him. So let me explain what I say all this.

First of all, let’s be on the same page about what idolatry means. To me, it’s anything that distracts from the cross and Jesus Christ as Lord and savior of the world. He died because we were sinners and could not be reconciled by our own efforts and return to co-creating (stewarding in the garden) with the Father a life that glorifies Him. All blessings flow from Jesus and the Father so to try and go around Him and get your own way without acknowledging Jesus is Lord means you’re trying go around the door and into the wide path. First question for anyone who you follow in business should be, Do you believe that Jesus Christ is the ONLY way and all blessings flow from Him. If they can’t say yes or they say I believe there are lots of ways, walk away. Here’s a great read on Rees Howell intercessor about how he prayed in faith and fed orphans supernaturally. This man will change your prayer life! 

Next, I think you need to be clear about your identity in Christ (prayer & dealing with spiritual warfare) and also about solidifying your personal leadership identity (boundaries, skills and talents)  Here’s a video that explains that if you are not sure what I am talking about.  This is important because you have to grow your LEADERSHIP AND SKILLS in conjunction with your PRAYER LIFE if you want to be profitable in business. Every year you have to be generating new leads, solving problems and serving people well.

Third, I believe God has called us to co-create our lives with Him by discerning our natural talents, spiritual gifts and stewarding them with excellence. We aren’t to sit around waiting on some angel or prophetic person to give us a word of God.  Before the Fall we were placed to name and steward and work with God. God expects us to grow what he gives us without hiding due to not understanding his nature.  This is clear in the parable about the faithful steward.

Fourth, Christ came to show us how to overcome the adversary and become ambassadors for Him in our work. And this is where I think there is not enough teaching in the church and why I wrote 4 Phases Of Spiritual Warfare because not everyone is called into full time ministry and honestly, most Christians underestimate that spiritual success comes from laying down your life and learning how to overcome adversity God’s way. Sometimes people want to pick how God will use them instead of just being okay with what he worked into their lives and what people really need.  This in my perspective is how messages are created that glorify God. They come from tests being turned into TESTIMONIES. If you can align your natural love for teaching into a speaking or coaching business that glorifies God this is a no brainer for me. Sign me up!

Fifth, here’s my interpretation of the abundance/manifestation thoughts. It’s about solving lack, failure and other fear-based thinking through repeating to yourself you are just wonderful and aligning yourself with a core belief of Hey! Everything is going to work out great if you just believe that the universe wants to work with you and not against you. Here’s the problem with that. I believe without Christ I am a HOT MESS. Ask my husband. Ask my kids. I have an enemy who wants to kill, steal and destroy my faith, my marriage, my children and my testimony.  God has told me to sober and diligent and do certain things to preserve unity, stay in fellowship with other believers and be able to point people towards Christ as the one and only Lord and savior of the universe.

Now let me explain abundance through your identity in Christ and a faith filled mindset:

God has given you a spirit of power, love and sound mind. Your mission is to make disciples in your family, your friendships and in your work. You are an overcomer by the blood of the lamb and the word of your testimony and you love your life not even unto death. Not everything will work out to make you happy or feel good. You will be hated and persecuted for standing up for Christ. However, God says to you, the plans he has for you are to prosper you and to bring you to an expected end so that you can be a light on a hill. He’s going to send you to preach, teach and pray for people to be healed because you faced adversity in Christ and God gave you grace to get through it. He says to forcefully deal with demonic forces with prayer, fasting and speaking the word to invisible and oppressive forces. And guess what? You’re seated with Christ in the heavenlies far above powers and high places so walk in your authority today and use your identity in Christ. You are a force to be reckoned with because of the work He did. 

Note: You will never hear these abundance people talk about prayer, fasting and preaching Christ resurrected. Why? Because they are drawing you away from dependence on Christ and into self reliance.

Here’s a couple sum ups:

  1. I believe if you want to finish your faith strong and be successful in your personal leadership and business, you will have to solve with militancy how your going to overcome self-limiting beliefs. This is the stuff you say to yourself when you feel lack, the places in your identity where you are incongruent (say one thing, do another) and what you do when you when you are stressed beyond belief. These 3 things will make or break your success. This is primarily what I teach in my Leadership Track because the statistics say that up to 50% of the church come from an addiction based background. That’s a lot of stinking thinking!
  2. In today’s video I talk to you about some practical examples of how to keep your faith activated in prayer and match your confession with it until you see results. This works in your personal life and business without new age techniques. I share with you time tested breakthrough tips I use.
  3. Here’s the Mindset Retreat I do once a year in November. I go into more training on Abundance there. 

If you have any questions, just post them below! Love, Bec:)

Starting A Christian Coaching Business-FAQ

You have been praying and believing to help people receive transformation. You also have been dreaming about having your own business and now you’re at the point where you are ready to take the steps to turn this into a reality! Today I am going to walk you through the steps I took as I started my business so you can begin to put your platform and systems in place for consistent lead generation. 

Technically there is a point where you are going to have a problem with the IRS if you don’t run payroll and stay tax compliant but that will be a little further down the road after you make some basic decisions.

  1. First is deciding what kind of business identity you want.  An LLC or a Sole Proprietorship. This is pretty important from protecting yourself personally. Generally, sole proprietors are started because they are free. However, one of the great benefits with an LLC versus the sole proprietorship is that a your liability is limited to the amount of the money you invest in your business. A sole proprietor would be liable for the debts incurred by the business. and more scary is if someone sues you and takes you to court, they can go after a sole proprietor’s home, car and other personal property. A sole p uses their social security number instead of EIN. If you go LLC you will need an EIN.  Have a conversation with your CPA basically. If you make more than $400 coaching you need to pay taxes on it. See more here. 
  2. You need to file for a EIN number if you answer yes to any of these questions.
  3. You will need to register your business with your state’s tax office. Here is Georgia’s for example. 
  4. You will need to register with the Department of Labor in your state. Here is Georgia’s. 
  5. You will need an occupational tax license in your city even if you work from home. Example. When you apply you need to bring your state license.

Now, here’s good news. Once you launch your business, you can officially write off business coaching as an expense for your business. Leadership coaching cannot be written off but business coaching can!

There are also numerous things you can write off for your business tax wise including marketing you do on social media, events you host, speaking you do around your business and expenses like writing books, your website and any support you receive for that. Of course talk to your tax accountant about details but this will get you started!

Faith Forward! Love, Bec:)

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How to get authentic testimonials: Christian coach business training

Today I talk to you about how to recognize what you do that really is a gift to people even before you launch a business. When you can identify this, it begins to help you build Godly confidence. When you do the work to grow in clarity about the gifts and talents God has entrusted to you, then you can begin to multiply and steward them to a greater degree.

If you are already received your certification as a coach and you want to begin to grow your clientele, then it’s to your benefit to watch todays video (if it helps you, please like) and learn how to ask for a very specific testimonial when you are finished serving you first couple clients.

General testimonials do not grow your business, they just leave you feeling nice. We want you to feel valued and your business to grow profitably! Just keeping it real!

Remember get started with what you have in your hand today and tomorrow you can become a paid coach or speaker!

Love, Bec:)


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Life Coach Training: Authenticity Vs. Oversharing

As a life coach and speaker, you must be clear on the difference between what is authentic and what is gratuitous attention seeking behavior. This is when it is essential to be spending time in solitude, meditation and prayer. You must have a clear conscience daily before God before you seek to influence others.

On a side note, one of the characteristics of people who grow up in shame-based or addiction based homes is their tendency to overshare information. This is to position themselves for more sympathy or as a victim. They also believe if they give out really personal information it will help gain trust without giving the time for people to examine their actions.

What I have seen as a coach is if someone is telling their story on social media and it’s still happening, that’s my first red flag. Next is when people start processing out their pain in front of an audience with no plan on how to solve it. We should only share information that others are going to be able to learn how to profit from. If we don’t have that yet then we haven’t technically become an overcomer in that situation and it’s attention seeking.

This can problem can be easily moved through from simple leadership training and asking the Holy Spirit to illuminate to us when we just need to be quiet. This again is why it is so important to cultivate a life of inner solitude before God.

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Use what’s in your hand today! Love, Bec:)


3 Steps From Behind The Scenes To Upfront Influencer

I have some great news for you today if you feel like God has been calling you to EXPAND your vision and leadership and you just don’t know how to obey him and enlarge your boundary stones. Time to shine your light!

Today’s video will show you what you have to switch in your mindsets and what to do practically.

Like if it encouraged you and leave a comment and I have a personal invitation for you for deeper (FREE) mentoring at the end! Here’s the link! 

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Get started today with what’s in your hand if you want to be a faithful steward! Love, Bec:)

The Difference Between Your Leadership Identity & Identity In Christ

In today’s training I help you understand a simple but many times confusing identity focus.

. Many times even leaders get the two of these confused and work much harder on perfecting one over the other. The truth is you have to grow these BOTH at the same time in a balanced way in order to handle growth in business or ministry with grace.

Here’s what this will solve for you:

1. You don’t know whether your present challenges are spiritual warfare or simply a lack of boundaries.
2. You have a vision but keep feeling like it’s delayed from not having the next steps from God on how to grow it.
3. You are giving away all your coaching and speaking for free and not being able to be profitable in your vision.

These are all legitimate concerns and today I will show you why understanding how to function out of either of these identities is integral to your success.

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6 Tips On Defining Who You Are

Today’s leadership training is about building the confidence you need to serve people well. The beauty about taking the time to do the work to discover who you really are (even in addition to who you are in Christ) is you are more able to effectively be sent to the exact people who need your message.

Here are 6 tips on how to begin to do this work:

  1. Take time to read the scripture and share your fears with God. If you are not willing to take your pain to the Lord, you will never be set free from making fear based decisions and idolatry. Get up a full two hours (you want things to change right?)  before you have to begin work. Desperate people do desperate things. Devote the first portion of your day to practicing God’s presence and releasing your burdens to him and confessing who you are in Christ specifically in any situation you are not being able to receive peace in.
  2. Ask Jesus who you are supposed to be in the next season. If you don’t FOLLOW JESUS then guess what? You will never be changed from glory to glory. Your life will stay the same and you will have little impact on others. Ask the Lord what skills you need to cultivate and what you need to be doing practically to serve who he has called you to serve.
  3. Embrace what you stink at and purpose to let God refine it. I remember when God sent me someone to invite me to Toastmasters (a speaking organization) and I was terrified to accept the invitation because I got severe migraines when I spoke in front of an audience. It turns out I had a trauma that when I resolved released me to speak with power and within 6 months I was asked to speak on national television as a SPOKESPERSON. God knows what he is doing when he has people invite you to into your promotion. Accept it and watch your life be transformed.
  4. Ask the Lord who you want to serve. Now, honestly from a business perspective this doesn’t always brand perfectly but it’s a powerful exercise to go through. Ask the Holy Spirit to break down for you who he wants to send you to and how you can help this specific audience solve problems.
  5. Ask the people closest to you to confirm your gifts, discipline level and boldness. You need to have all three confirmed because in order to step into a new identity, you will need the confidence that other people have seen you be faithful with what you had in your hand.  
  6. Who are you hanging around? You are the combination of the three people in your life you spend the most time around. You can never grow a powerful and profitable identity without a clear vision on who you want give to and hanging around people who have pioneered before you. If you are hanging around people who are stuck in fear based thinking, you will not acquire the faith to pioneer your own business profits. 

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Faith foward with confidence to SHARE YOUR MESSAGE!

Love, Bec:)

Increase Your Authority (And Profits) By SPEAKING About Results

One of the first things you will have to learn to do if you are used to being in ministry is to speak as an expert in area’s that God has brought you through. You do this by sharing your experiences but challenging your clients to move out of victimization thinking, mediocrity or the pain they are in and offer them a step by step plan that will IGNITE THEIR FAITH. You must be strong and confident when you speak as people who feel overwhelmed with doubt need a touch from God and a plan of action.

The truth is most women want to be motivators rather than MESSENGERS. When you come in contact with a real messenger of God they make you gasp with their clarity level. They say things that you were thinking in your heart, wondering about but never could articulate. They solve your wandering fast. Whether they are in ministry or business, they walk in purpose and help you move into the next level of stewardship for your calling.

In other words you cannot make it your aim to make people feel good, entertain or just encourage them. You have to let go of the fear of man and IGNITE A FIRE within your audience. You have to help them understand that they can BECOME THIS KIND OF PERSON if they take the actions you are suggesting they take.  This means you are going to have to move from very general encouragement and what I call romance phrases to breaking down for your client four or five pain points and how they can receive the results you can give them. If you are wanting to help people receive transformation from your story and pull them into a program you have, you should be touching on the pain and problems you solve in your system.

Without being able to do this consistently every time you speak or write, you will be a really nice encourager but not a profitable coach. The below conversation is one I had with a client who was speaking at a women’s worship event. I began to ask her to develop her speech by telling me what kind of results she wanted to help her clients receive within one hour as she had a full hour to share in addition to the ministry time.

Here was her first response back to me before we shifted into RESULT mode:

Women are engaged

Hearts are positioned to receive from the Lord

Their eyes are watching with anticipation

Their ears and their heart are open to receive

They are free to cry, praise, worship in total abandonment and surrender

They are letting GO of the things that are hindering them

They are receiving and are blessed by the Words spoken- they walk out different then when they walked in

As I speak I impart freedom and permission for them to step out of comfort zone and into their dreams and not to hold back as they move forward.

Here is what I wrote her back: 

When you read this, don’t read it with your mothers nagging voice in your ear. Read it like I am hugging you and then we pray for God to undo you and send you with FIRE:)

Women are engaged (too general)…What are you saying that is causing them to literally come out of their seat. Tell me things you’re going to challenge them to change that comes from your new coaching system. 

Hearts are positioned to receive from the Lord: Why. Is it because they have been praying and fasting for your speech? Because you start by having them make a declaration over the time you spend with them? That’s a big deal. What is making them so desperate?  You better light them up fast. People are only positioned to hear from God if they are coachable and willing to repent and take new action. What are you praying ahead for them to be convicted of? What are you going to say out of the gate to cause them to think HOLY CRAP what just happened!

Their eyes are watching with anticipation- noooo….I want you to come out of the clouds. You need to walk the earth and become a force to women. WHAT DO THESE PHRASES MEAN PRACTICALLY? You are a coach not a romance writer. KICK THEIR BUTTS! Don’t send me anymore the room is filled with the fragrance of Christ phrases.

Their ears and their heart are open to receive. Really? AGGGHHHHH. I am now grabbing your face between my hands and pleading with you to WRITE PRACTICALLY!

They are free to cry, praise, worship in total abandonment and surrender. You’re not there as a worship leader. You are there to CREATE CHANGE IN THE ATMOSPHERE. They can worship to Casting Crowns when they leave. You don’t want them crying. You want them to repent, take action and sign up for your program because GOD SENT YOU TO THEM.

They are letting GO of the things that are hindering them. Why should they? Write WHY out and into your speech. What will happen to them if they don’t let go. TELL THEM THE PAIN THEY WILL CREATE For THEMSELVES AND THEIR DAUGHTERS.

They are receiving and are blessed by the Words spoken- they walk out different then when they walked in. Well yeah, cause you’re going to cause a RIOT. WRITE A SPEECH FOR ME TO SEE LIKE YOU ARE ACTIVATING AN ARMY OF MILITANT WOMEN.

As I speak I impart freedom and permission for them to step out of a comfort zone and into their dreams and not to hold back as they move forward. Go back through your program and write your whole speech around your paragraphs. Do it quickly like you’re on fire. Get going woman!

I am happy to report that the client knew I was trying to help her and did not fire me for being so strong. Because here’s the truth, it takes time to learn how to think this way rather then in just encouragement mode. When she spoke, people told her they couldn’t believe how much work and leadership God had done in her life since the last time they saw here speak.  Do this work and you will find people say the same thing about you and your closing rates really climb!

Faith forward, Bec:)

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