5 Reasons You Should Get Started Writing That Coaching Program

Writing your own coaching manual is one of the greatest ways to multiply the work of grace Christ has done in your life. If I had someone share with me the information that I am going to tell you today, I would have never struggled with blocking time to get started writing. It has grown my business profitably and I have been able to use my testimony on how God set me free to point to Christ.

So here’s the truth. God sometimes calls people to influence in super-spiritual ways; I am not disputing that. Maybe they have some vision or prophetic word that they will be influencers or they have a call to ministry. And then there is all the rest of us that God just gives this nagging feeling to that won’t go away; that feels more like a desire to start a business that we can share our testimony in a blogs, books, coaching or speaking. For some reason, if it’s a desire then it is so much easier to ignore or think it’s “flesh.”  But here’s the thing. Desires are planted by the Lord, and if your heart is to see people set free, this is just as valid as some mystical experience.

Let me assure you, whether you have strong impressions in prayer, idea’s that you think would help others build success or just that ordinary nagging, won’t go away feeling the way I did; this is the Holy Spirit nudging you to write down your thoughts and processes into a precise form. So, it’s important that you yield to this, the same way you would yield to God asking you to deal with some aspect of your old nature. God leads, we follow.

Why Some People Talk About Transforming Lives But Never Do It

I have noticed that the more people struggle with needing affirmation from others, the longer they talk and don’t take action to pioneer their own thing. After coaching hundreds of people through this process, it boils down to one issue. They are afraid to put their leadership out there for people to inspect because all deep down most of us are scared of getting found out that we are deceiving ourselves, all our hard work will amount to nothing or that worse, people don’t agree with our theology, think we are prideful and slam us publicly. (Been there done that:)

The first year of blogging I did for my business was terrible! I had a friend of mine who was an English teacher go through it them with a red pen, and I cried reading her comments. But here’s the thing. After I kept writing and kept coaching by faith, it helped me define my brand and helped me identify my boldest identity zones. I had so many people tell me that year that my coaching deeply changed them that it confirmed to me I was in the will of God. The bottom line is if God has spoken to you about coaching, writing your programs or even books for speaking, it is now about what God wants to use you for and not whether you feel like developing it or you don’t have time, resources put aside or the confidence.  It’s about you being obedient, activating your faith and stepping into a place and position where you can be used as a conduit for God’s message.

Here Are Five Reason’s To Get Started Writing That Blog, Book Or Course Work

1. Writing a book or developing a training course is about WHO God is sending you to transform.

I believe this is why most people who say, “I’m going to write a book, speak or create a training program someday,” never cast their vision, block time to write and FINISH in a deadline (Because the truth is you can have the never-ending perfectionistic project). It’s because it’s still about them and they are getting spiritual warfare! When you have a revelation that the Lord is trying to activate you to bring him glory, you will find the time to get up at 4 am if you have to write, bump the lunches so you can write while you are at work and otherwise do what you have to do to finish it.  You will be able to push through the fear of the whole thing being a complete failure because you now have become OBEDIENT and now it’s up to God on what to do with it.

2.  Developing your blog, book or course work will force you to identify your BOLDEST IDENTITY zone. This is the place you are most anointed to serve people in.

I just spoke at the Georgia Christian Counselors Association about growing extra income streams for your business. You grow profitably because you stay in the RIGHT ZONES that God has graced you with. Here’s what I see happen again and again. We all have resurrection stories that glorify Christ and lead people to HIM. There is anointing on your testimony because it is the work of the Holy Spirit in your life. When you take the time to harness this and give your audience a step-by-step system for break-through, the results are BOLD. It’s because your brokenness is the place God wants to use, not your knowledge. This is why you don’t have to worry about it being too simple or not theologically deep enough. Write about your pure illumination from the Lord and watch how what the enemy meant for evil, God turns for his GLORY!

3.  Writing a book, coaching or developing courses is about God using you now in the small things. In your closest friendships, in your neighborhood, and in your city.

Holy Cow. Don’t even get me started here with the professional speaking friends I have whose big city published books are sitting in their garage affecting NO ONE. You don’t have to be published by supernova Christian book publisher to begin transforming people’s lives. You can start blogging for around $500 or  self-publish your first book like I did and see if it affects people for the kingdom BEFORE you invest $20,000 into a bigger publishing venture. Let’s be clear; your book is about GOD touching people, not fame, fortune and the big bucks you will make. Quit worrying about who will publish it and the cover, layout, and editing. Just get started writing and finish it and God will give you all those steps when you need them.

4. Writing down your strategies will make you such a better communicator. You will feel so thankful that you took that leap of faith to develop your own content and brand. 

There is no better feeling than looking back over the places that Satan has kicked your butt with and getting the satisfaction of seeing the Lord lifted high 100 times for all the ten times that the devil stole from you. WOOT! It’s a beautiful, overcoming, dance in the living room, sing in the car, your victory song! There is something so powerful that happens when you take that thought that has been floating around in your heart and head, and you put it down on paper. It comes to life, and now it can be multiplied. Many times I have written a blog, someone saw it and then invited me to speak on the subject, or they emailed me from halfway around the world telling me it ultimately set them free. It is true that you will magnetize to you what you develop the clarity for, if you share it consistently, it will get even bigger.

5. It will be one of the most fulfilling things you have ever done, and you will look back and THANK GOD for the grace he gave you to get it out of you. 

When I look at the transformation that God has brought my clients through my books, I am so humbled by his grace. Every time I take a new client through my team or use it when I speak,  I pause and say, “Only you Oh, Lord”. And we all know this, but only God can take the simple things and give people profoundly, life-altering deliverance with it. I don’t want ever to be the kind of person who is looking back and wondering what it would have been like to obey God fully. I want the whole adventure. Risk, success, and failure.

Ready to get started developing your vision to transform people for the kingdom? Begin with my START NOW package. I personally follow up with everyone who I send this to you!

Now get started writing!

Love, Bec:)

3 Tips On How To Set New Boundaries With Old Friends

Here’s the bottom line. If you want to live purposefully, you have to be intentional with who you spend your time with. So what do you do when you are building success, but you find there are people around you who are not only distracting you from what God has called you to but giving you a hard time when you communicate your vision to them?

It’s helpful first to understand what the “kingdom” is within you. You see, it’s not this ethereal realm that is mystical for only the super-spiritual people who God really loves. Simply put, whatever you can decide yes or no with… Is your effectual rule.  Ultimately, boundaries are meant to protect your heart and the people under your influence. If you want to influence people authentically, this is a very important revelation for you.

We alone are responsible through the empowerment of the Holy Spirit to place boundary stones in pleasant places. It is your identity in Christ to live a significant and fruitful life but only if you consistently enforce it. If you make commitments and break them frequently, now you are perceived as an inconsistent person, and you lose influence and credibility.

 Next, as you grow, one of the situations you might encounter is people around you become fearful that you are going to abandon them if you experience more success. Most of the time, fear and insecurity will manifest as sarcasm, snarkiness, passive control or even individuals cutting you off relationally if you set boundaries that challenge them.

How to reset new boundaries with old friends 

1. It is up to you to help them understand in a grace-filled way, that you are growing in your leadership.

 Remember, you can never EXPECT people to get about you “identity-wise” if you don’t COMMUNICATE and ENFORCE it every-time. Sometimes we think we are very clear with people when the truth is, our actions are not lining up with the identity we profess. It’s not enough to tell people where you would like; you have to teach them by your consistent actions.

The first thing to do in this case is go before God when you are not stressed and determine the 3 to 5 boundaries that you are not willing to compromise on.  The last thing you want to do is sabotage yourself by backing down and creating a situation where the person expects you to not follow through on what you say you are going to do. When I am working with my private clients, I usually keep them at 3 core boundaries as your aim is to reframe the one house, not build a whole new subdivision in one document.

For example, if you feel like this friend or client is habitually making commitments and then backs out at the last minute, you can see that they probably don’t value themselves or their time very well.  When you reschedule to do something with them without bringing up the first situation where they didn’t honor your time, you have now taught them that this is an acceptable pattern for you. So, here’s how to do with grace. When you schedule the second event with them, tell them that you really value spending time with them, but you would appreciate it 8 hours before you are supposed to get together with them, they would text you or confirm by email that the meeting is still on. If they do not text you and you really like them, text them and ask them if you are still on. If they do not respond, you do not head out for this appointment. If they show up and blame you, simply state what the expectations were with confirming the times. And, consider that this is not a person you want in your close friend circle or professional relationship as they will not be consistent with their word in small things. If people can’t be consistent and execute on little things, they will not execute on what’s important to you or them. This is not an individual that will help you birth your dreams.

2.  Begin by telling the people around you where you are going and that you are so excited about creating a thriving, peaceful and stable life.  This means you have to do the work to clarify your goals and vision for the next one to five years. Dig down into developing an idea that will cause you to joy and then start smiling and praying about it daily. That’s faith. I would even include in this vision what kind of people you want to partner with and how you will recognize them when they come into your life. You have to be practical when you reset boundaries. For example, they will tell you how much they appreciate spending time with you by being punctual:). Once you have done the internal work, then watch yourself become more confident, and you will begin to attract more of this kind of people into your life rather than the one’s that sabotage you.

3. Decide what kind of friend and business partner you’re going to be for other people now that you don’t like the old identity.  Up your leadership by requiring from yourself what you want in a friend. It’s biblical. And don’t cut yourself slack. If you want loyal friends who can speak the truth to you in love, then be that for them. If people are struggling with people pleasing or rejection, sometimes this prevents them from communicating when their feelings or hurt. Write a list of WHO you are identity wise and choose to build a bold character. Here’s a couple I require from myself.

I am: someone who prioritizes prayer; I am fit, I laugh at myself, I am surrounded by faithful, loyal, successful women and men. I value giving back and serve fully and to be the best of my ability, when I make a mistake, I say I am sorry. I value relationships over being right. I finish what I start. I eat the fruit of my labor. (Feel free to go on and on:) 

You can rearrange boundaries with grace. Just remember, when you grow into a stronger identity,  it can be threatening to other people. You will create a tension, and people will be forced into two positions. They will either have to disconnect from you because they are not willing to accept this new change in you or best case scenario they will choose to grow themselves and affirm the new identity God is working in your life. Do not hold back rearranging the boundaries that bring you joy because you are afraid people will not like the new you. God does it all the time for my clients and will do it for you!

The best way to determine who is going with you into your next season is to begin moving in the direction you believe God is calling you into. If that’s speaking and coaching, let me send you my START NOW package so you can have the resources you need to be successful!

Love, Bec:)

How To Lose Weight With Normal Foods

One of the things I teach my clients when they are preparing to launch a business is how to build a lifestyle of leadership as an entrepreneur. Here’s the bottom line, I am working most of the day and when I am not coaching or traveling, I am outside with my two neigh-neighs. I need my energy level high and have ZERO time to spend mentally on counting points or micro-managing my eating patterns.

Don’t get into the mindset of DIETING. Your mindset focus IS BUILDING YOUR LEADERSHIP & INFLUENCING AUTHENTICALLY!

Here’s an overview of what I encourage my clients to do when they are ready to start de-fluffing after the holidays.

Think long-term and don’t say the word diet ever again. You’re not going to starve. You’re going to change your daily habits to eat healthy and do something that ramps your cardio daily. Walk a couple miles, carry poop around in a wheelbarrow for half-hour from your horses, do yoga, whatever is building strength and getting you moving consistently. I alternate all of these daily and thorough-out the week. I am not trying to be a body builder. I am trying to look professional when I speak or coach and stay active into my nineties!!

I like real butter and don’t use anything fat-free including milk. I just use it in small amounts and when I cook vegetables, dinner or make smoothies, I use coconut milk. Much healthier.

Generally I stay away from sugar and eat really simply. When I want to drop a couple pounds I cut out potatoes, rice and focus on smoothies, salads without dairy and simple broth and meat for dinner with a couple vegetables thrown in. I also make my own muffins that I eat instead of bread.

When people ask me to get together, I ask them to bring their walking shoes so we walk after eating.  Stop eating when you’re full enough to make it through 3 to 4 hours. Usually a protein and vegetable will accomplish that like piece of fish and broccoli for lunch or dinner.

Here’s a recipe for my favorite muffins. I make these at the beginning of the week so I can have one a day with soup or when I get hungry.

Quinoa Muffins

2 cups Quinoa flour

1 cup oat flour

1 tsp baking soda and 1 tsp baking powder

Himalayan salt, I put in a pinch

3 Tbsp Coconut oil

2 Cups organic milk or coconut milk

2 tbsp molasses

1 tsp apple cider vinegar

Preheat over to 400 and put in muffin paper things. (LOL, you can tell I am not the gourmet cook)

Bake for about 15 minutes or until they look brown and firm. Hide from children:) or you won’t have any left for you.

Enjoy the muffins, I do!

 

 

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