One of the first things you will have to learn to do if you are used to being in ministry is to speak as an expert in area’s that God has brought you through. You do this by sharing your experiences but challenging your clients to move out of victimization thinking, mediocrity or the pain they are in and offer them a step by step plan that will IGNITE THEIR FAITH. You must be strong and confident when you speak as people who feel overwhelmed with doubt need a touch from God and a plan of action.
The truth is most women want to be motivators rather than MESSENGERS. When you come in contact with a real messenger of God they make you gasp with their clarity level. They say things that you were thinking in your heart, wondering about but never could articulate. They solve your wandering fast. Whether they are in ministry or business, they walk in purpose and help you move into the next level of stewardship for your calling.
In other words you cannot make it your aim to make people feel good, entertain or just encourage them. You have to let go of the fear of man and IGNITE A FIRE within your audience. You have to help them understand that they can BECOME THIS KIND OF PERSON if they take the actions you are suggesting they take. This means you are going to have to move from very general encouragement and what I call romance phrases to breaking down for your client four or five pain points and how they can receive the results you can give them. If you are wanting to help people receive transformation from your story and pull them into a program you have, you should be touching on the pain and problems you solve in your system.
Without being able to do this consistently every time you speak or write, you will be a really nice encourager but not a profitable coach. The below conversation is one I had with a client who was speaking at a women’s worship event. I began to ask her to develop her speech by telling me what kind of results she wanted to help her clients receive within one hour as she had a full hour to share in addition to the ministry time.
Here was her first response back to me before we shifted into RESULT mode:
Women are engaged
Hearts are positioned to receive from the Lord
Their eyes are watching with anticipation
Their ears and their heart are open to receive
They are free to cry, praise, worship in total abandonment and surrender
They are letting GO of the things that are hindering them
They are receiving and are blessed by the Words spoken- they walk out different then when they walked in
As I speak I impart freedom and permission for them to step out of comfort zone and into their dreams and not to hold back as they move forward.
Here is what I wrote her back:
When you read this, don’t read it with your mothers nagging voice in your ear. Read it like I am hugging you and then we pray for God to undo you and send you with FIRE:)
Women are engaged (too general)…What are you saying that is causing them to literally come out of their seat. Tell me things you’re going to challenge them to change that comes from your new coaching system.
Hearts are positioned to receive from the Lord: Why. Is it because they have been praying and fasting for your speech? Because you start by having them make a declaration over the time you spend with them? That’s a big deal. What is making them so desperate? You better light them up fast. People are only positioned to hear from God if they are coachable and willing to repent and take new action. What are you praying ahead for them to be convicted of? What are you going to say out of the gate to cause them to think HOLY CRAP what just happened!
Their eyes are watching with anticipation- noooo….I want you to come out of the clouds. You need to walk the earth and become a force to women. WHAT DO THESE PHRASES MEAN PRACTICALLY? You are a coach not a romance writer. KICK THEIR BUTTS! Don’t send me anymore the room is filled with the fragrance of Christ phrases.
Their ears and their heart are open to receive. Really? AGGGHHHHH. I am now grabbing your face between my hands and pleading with you to WRITE PRACTICALLY!
They are free to cry, praise, worship in total abandonment and surrender. You’re not there as a worship leader. You are there to CREATE CHANGE IN THE ATMOSPHERE. They can worship to Casting Crowns when they leave. You don’t want them crying. You want them to repent, take action and sign up for your program because GOD SENT YOU TO THEM.
They are letting GO of the things that are hindering them. Why should they? Write WHY out and into your speech. What will happen to them if they don’t let go. TELL THEM THE PAIN THEY WILL CREATE For THEMSELVES AND THEIR DAUGHTERS.
They are receiving and are blessed by the Words spoken- they walk out different then when they walked in. Well yeah, cause you’re going to cause a RIOT. WRITE A SPEECH FOR ME TO SEE LIKE YOU ARE ACTIVATING AN ARMY OF MILITANT WOMEN.
As I speak I impart freedom and permission for them to step out of a comfort zone and into their dreams and not to hold back as they move forward. Go back through your program and write your whole speech around your paragraphs. Do it quickly like you’re on fire. Get going woman!
I am happy to report that the client knew I was trying to help her and did not fire me for being so strong. Because here’s the truth, it takes time to learn how to think this way rather then in just encouragement mode. When she spoke, people told her they couldn’t believe how much work and leadership God had done in her life since the last time they saw here speak. Do this work and you will find people say the same thing about you and your closing rates really climb!
Faith forward, Bec:)
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