The Four Phases Of Spiritual Warfare

The moment you decide you want your life to matter for God’s glory, you’re going to get spiritual resistance. It doesn’t matter whether you are working for a church or a mom who wants to follow Christ and be a faithful wife.  When you get saved, you have entered an unseen battle.  

And here is the thing. Many times, men and women who just want to live purposely in the will of God, do not understand as they seek to grow in confidence in a Godly way, how much of the spiritual breakthrough they receive and are able to give others, is directly related to them recognizing how to deal SPIRITUALLY and PRACTICALLY with the tension they are receiving. You have to do both at the same time.  

In the process of overcoming my challenges (because I had a lot of poverty mindsets when I came to Christ due to growing up in an alcoholic  home) and equipping and releasing thousands of others to the same;  I began to notice what I called phases to people being able to overcome their own obstacles and influence others. 

This is not “secret sauce” revelation or levels that are set in stone. I didn’t provide a ton of scriptures with this because it’s a blog but if I do provide them in my Bold Influencers Training Course and book.  This is just me as a coach, trying to break things down practically for you concerning the exact resistance you have to overcome to become a kingdom influencer. Satan wants to take you out before you’re empowered to transform others with your testimony or God-given message. 

Phase 1: The first assignment is to prevent you from building any spiritual family, support, or relationships that are equipping you to walk in the your identity in Christ rather than self-help

You will have to choose not to get offended, overcome the feelings of rejection you experience, and resist complaining. You might not have clarity on your life, purpose, or vision. You may even be in survival mode.  If you have not had positive experiences with authority figures or groups, and you will stay stuck at this first level until you learn to forgive yourself and the people who have hurt you.  This first phase will try to WEAR YOU OUT EMOTIONALLY with victimization thinking. You will struggle with feeling insignificant to God and others.  You will be double-minded, angry, and insecure during this phase. It seems like two steps forward, one step back. Many times people never mature past this level because Satan takes them captive with bitterness against organizations (even churches) and keeps them spiritually wandering. They will not be able to find their place in the body of Christ and stay isolated. 

Phase 2: The second assignment is to cloud your vision, discourage you from pursuing your deepest heart desires, and create emotional barriers between you and kingdom people. 

Satan attempts to remind you of the rejection from the last season and tells you what a waste of time it is to practice the presence of God. (This is to keep you from following the Father’s voice consistently until you receive transformation). Many times people are still dealing with escapism in the form of oversleeping, food, video games, hobbies, and addictions because their identity in Christ needs to be solidified.  Poverty-mindsets such as no joy, judging yourself and others, overwhelm, and enabling are standard for this phase. You could have friends that enable your poor choices. This is because you’re still learning how to let the right people into your life to challenge you and you don’t have tight accountability.   I notice people in this phase deal with a lot of cluttered living environments, workstations, and relationships that leave them feeling like they are not living intentionally. You also may deal with not being able to manage your time well or say no to things outside your vision. This is because you are still wrapped up in people pleasing. 

Phase 3: The third level of spiritual warfare is to prevent you from abiding in the correct spheres of authority and establishing your influence through prayer. 

There is a big difference between being released by God as opposed to men. Being released from God comes from a revelation of your identity and knowing God’s affirmation. Positions, titles, and degree’s come through positional authority delegated to you by man. For women who feel called to carry power spiritually with men, this is usually a deal breaker place. This is a time where you begin to become an actual threat to Satan. You are now in a position to pray with power and become a TRUTH BEARER to others. You will be used to convict people’s heart to the point where they have to either conform to Christ or push Him away. This happens because you know the Word of God, more of your identity, and you haven’t been able to be uprooted through your flesh because of offense. You are now willing to be persecuted for what you believe. The tension here comes because you are experiencing rejection for the sake of Christ and getting delivered from people-pleasing. This is a place where all real leaders have to go to be launched correctly. When I was in this phase, I was labeled a “Jezebel” by people who were threatened by my emerging new identity.  This is also the place where you will face generational strongholds, possible racial injustice, temptation towards sexual immorality, and dark soul loneliness for your calling. In some parts of the world, people are martyred for their faith because of this alignment.

Phase 4: The fourth level of spiritual warfare comes to test your commitment to the call of God on your life, boldness and your willingness to pay the price for the freedom of others.

It is here that you begin to multiply your kingdom influence.  You’re being commissioned to teach and impact others through preaching, speaking, and writing, the mechanisms that will lead to exponential multiplication. Your authority at this level is to subdue the whole earth (Gen 1:28) through your resurrection message (The story and the testimony that you have of the transformation Christ brought you). Often much of the warfare is the clarity, the confidence without being brash, and the identity that you are going to reproduce in others. During this phase in my life, I experienced an identity theft for almost a million dollars, and every relationship that was dear to me went through the fire. It revealed the loyalty to the mission God had given me and the mindsets of those who were going to support my next authority level and the ones that weren’t. You cannot quit on your mission assignment or your calling due to other people misunderstanding WHO God has called you to be. I remember telling those around me during this season God was calling me to a new mission, PRAYER & COACHING. Within one year of moving through this warfare, I launched my Christian coaching business, which now serves people internationally. I also got hit with a lot of health issues during this phase which seems to have been a great tactic the enemy continually tries to discourage me with. (I like to be outside being active, so I herniated disc’s, struggled with massive dehydration when I ran, and ridiculous challenges to steal my joy). The oppression /depression comes to try and slow you down and dilute your message from being spoken boldly. Many times if you’re not careful you will internalize oppression as an IDENTITY.  You have to fight to keep hope for your focus and move forward into multiplication in this phase.

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Looking forward to helping you pioneer your own BOLD CALLING! 

Love, Bec:)


60 thoughts on “The Four Phases Of Spiritual Warfare”

  1. Thank you soooooo much for writing & sharing that!!!! There is so much resonance & confirmation that I am facing those same challenges in my life.

    PRAYING & BELIEVING for personal, familial, & community Victory & Protection against every tactical effort by the enemy.

    💖GOD BLESS!!💖

    1. Janice Honeycutt

      This really helped me. As I’ve went thru some and going thru some of the things you spoke of. Thank you very much.

  2. MeGail D Johnson

    Thank You Lord… I’ve encountered something this week that had me questioning God himself.. After having poured into so many just to be met with REJECTIONS and hurts!!.. This was really ON TIME!

    1. I to saw a lot of similarities and conformation of the tactics the enemy will use to weaken who you are and attack at every angle until he has your attention. Great word. I needed to see these phases. Thank you for sharing this.

  3. Thank you – I can relate to the 1st /2nd very well – GOD has brought thru SO MUCH – suicide – alcoholism – breast cancer – I’ve felt HIS touch thru hugs and I LOVE HIM so MUCH. I want direction from HIM- I want to see HIM smiling like bright lighthouse light – for everyone to see and want to come see what that light is – cause HE’s just waiting with open arms – people need to know WHO HE IS. Thank you

  4. Thank you thank you thank you !! I have just planted a new church and am teaching them How to intercede and pray in power & authority 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 And this is what I needed to hear right now 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  5. This was awesome! I had just finished praying about Gods provision to make sure I am fully equipped for what he has planned for the next season of my life and that of my families.. Blessings 💕🙏. Tanja

  6. I’m so glad I read this article. I’m currently working in a position that i know without a doubt God sent me to, and it’s quite painful to be honest. Lots of past hurts have resurfaced and I’ve been focused on all the bad instead of what’s good. Even before this, however; I’ve been called a Jezebel spirit by God fearing people for bringing to light some of the abuse that was occurring. It seems like I’m going through bouts of all these phases though. Satan’s attacks have never been so strong. It’s nice to know it’s because he’s afraid. But I don’t want to be any of the choices on the email sent. It is ministry, but my purpose is very specific. Hope this fits.

  7. Nice article. However, if you write a lot: coach’s perspective (possessive) not coaches perspective. And, degrees (plural) not degree’s (possessive).

  8. Hello thank you for this article it’s really awakened my spiritual aspect of things I’m an intercessor as well I’ve been called into a deliverance ministry but still in training I work with girls who are in recovery through ARC and I’ve got so much to learn thank you for this


    Very encouraging and helpful to see tactics the enemy uses on me are common to others. Thank you

  10. Thank you. You gave clarity to something that is definitely part of my Christian walk. Nice to know I am walking the straight path as often my experience is Grace isn’t always Graceful. Each stage you described brings it’s own challenges to Face in Him. You know this yet you sometimes wonder if your doing something wrong when it becomes difficult.

  11. Thank you for being a trailblazer. This gave me understanding with what I’ve been dealing with. I am a song writer and recording artist and have great passion to preach Gods Word and see people set free. I too was raise in an alcoholic family. I have dealt with food additions as well as other additions. Thank-you for your post.

  12. This is exactly what I’ve been going through–all 4 levels, some repeats of level 1 & 2! It was like your writing my life story! Thank you for sharing! I’m excited to learn more as like you expressed, haven’t had many spiritual leaders lately.

  13. Dearest Becky ,so timely that I have ran across this post .Puts wind beneath my already soaring wings.After having been in ministry several years ,about 10 yrs ago I took a sabatical in which I never returned to ministry,well institution alized ministry ,I’ve always ministered out ,even in the midst of my own pain and intense loneliness.At the beginning of the year ,I left a job ,that seemed like the best fit for me ,good pay , weekends off ,store manager so I pretty much made my own schedule to some degree ,but felt so frustrated, exhausted both spiritually and mentally ,as well tormented in that ,no matter how often I ran ,or avoided to the calling upon my life ,I could not silence it.At the end of year I entered a time of fasting and praying ,seeking the Lord ,and in that time ,I had a vision of a life coaching, mentoring business ,never did I see this for myself ,yet while in ministry ,in which many open doors opened before me to speak at difference conferences,I guess on many fronts I did mentor ,coach , strengthen the body .But then ,as you know ,that Jezebel spirit which seeks to silence the voice of God’s upcoming prophetic ,vital ministry set out to attack , discourage and simply remove those whom He is calling to walk in His image ,like all His children ,we are all created in His imagine ,male and female He created them.Long story short ,I can relate to your journey of preparation and will be opening this business within a few short weeks ,the office is almost complete.He spoke so many things to me that has been anchor to my soul in times of hardship ,What you get by man ,you keep by man .But what I ordain ,I sustain .It keeps it simple, it keeps me dependant upon Him and Him alone.In the midst of all the clamour be and many voices ,He reminds me ,it was the Pharisees and scribes that questioned Jesus authority the most ,who gave you this authority to do these things? ,because it didn’t come from them ,however ,the true heart of the matter is found in the gospel of John ,all were turning to Him ,not a man ,not an institution, but a King .If I be lifted up ,He says ,I will draw all men unto Myself.Thats my heart in the next several months as I step into my next chapter of purpose, that through my heart of obedience He would be high and lifted up ,and draw all men unto Himself.I believe He will lead those whom I am called to touch as an extension of Him to me ,and I trust in the Christ in me ,the hope of glory.Blessings to you my friend.Your words were a strength ,a blessing and just another confirmation.

  14. I feel I have one of the 9 gifts in the Bible ,drug addiction has kept me around darkness and depression when I let go of drugs. I feel me and my children are under spiritual attack they are using my son I think he has a demon hiding in him.How can i protect us and live a happy life.

    1. Becky Harmon

      J, most people who come out of addictions struggle with depression for a while. It’s normal. I would get plugged into a church where you can get some accountability and support for your family!

  15. I so appreciate what you’ve shared here. Helps so much to have things explained by someone who’s been there, and been given the wisdom to shine their light on the paths of others who have struggled with understanding where they had been and why. Clarity, has been a big issue for me. I’ve been so discouraged over the years, as I have sought mentors who truly do understand, but have found very few. In 2009, The Lord asked me if I had asked myself where were the spiritual midwives? He then began to compare physical birth to Spuritual birth, as He impressed upon me how much spiritual midwives were needed. At the time, I had never heard of a Spiritual midwife, but I definitely knew from experience how much they are needed. I have been stuck for almost 6 years now. I am so thankful to have found your Ministry.

  16. Thank you. I was beginning to think I was not worthy. You nailed it. I am under attack right now from an ex that I fogave and opened my heart up to him as to my past and told him I forgave him and the one he was seeing while we were together. I have prayed for them and ask the Lord to forgive and bless them for I am thankful it happen, I brought me even deeper to the Lord. He inturn has turned my sister against me by telling her so many lies. I knew it was the evil one, but was feeling the rejection very hard. I am in phase 2 working on phase 3. You don’t know what this meant to give me my confidence back. I am 52 and have 19 year old asking me about were I go to church and they would like to go with me. I have co-workers asking me to go to different spiritual events in Nashville. I look forward to following you more. Thank you so much. I have told the Lord and preached about it, I am his to serve him and him use me as he wants.

  17. It’s amazing that God timed the words my spirit needed in this very moment and that they were prepared for me to feast on. May God continue to bless the work you are doing. This info is extremely helpful, as I have really been struggling with my identity in Christ and began having some weird dreams and got linked to the site through your youtube page. Thanks a lot, I will continue to press on by the grace of God.

  18. Thanks. These scriptures and prayers fill a big need I felt a satisfaction of peace and fulfillment I couldn’t get on my own or through Facebook. I haven’t been successful with longings of prayer warriors and going deeper. I love the New baby Christians, but it’s been so long, if ever, since I’ve been exposed to empowering praying women mentors. I want everyone to read this.

    1. Becky Harmon

      Denise, we hear that all the time. Welcome to SUCCESSnotsabotage. We are so happy you are here and feel free to share the blog with anyone who you feel could benefit from it!

  19. So thankful you posted this again. I think I need to print it out and tape it to my bathroom mirror as a constant reminder. 🙂

  20. I was truly blessed by these tips on how to overcome spiritual warfare. I felt like for a change that someone finally understood what I have been going through.” You will have to choose constantly to not get offended, overcome the feelings of rejection you will experience and resist responding to people in the flesh. You might not have clarity for your life purpose or vision or even be on survival mode. You will learn to forgive yourself and others and this phase will feel very wearing emotionally. You will struggle with feeling insignificant to God and others. You will be double-minded and insecure during this phase. It’s two steps forward, one step back”. This exactly what I’m dealing with now and it’s “God do you see me? And I know he does. Thank you so much for these they are going to to be so helpful for me to grow to the next level. Remain Blessed in all that you do.

    1. Becky Harmon

      Pam, so glad that brought you clarity. When we have clarity, we have consistency in our fight to win. Welcome to SUCCESSnotsabotage and let us know if there is anything else we can do for you!

  21. Bec,

    Thank you for following me on Twitter. By doing that I decided to see what you’re about and I can clearly see that you are a woman on a mission and you love Jesus very much. I took a life coaching course years ago and have a passion for people, ministry, speaking and teaching and making God known. You are a wealth of information and encouragement! Bless you as you expand His kingdom!

  22. Becky,
    I don’t think anyone could sum up better the last few years of my life as you did in this article. Your description of this warfare and your tips are excellent. I plan to share your advice with fellow Christians in the marketplace. I believe it’s helpful when one is going through these trials to recognize what God is doing in the midst of them. Thank you so much! God bless, Michael

    1. Becky Harmon

      Michael, so glad that helped you feel it wasn’t just you. I know when I have been through extended seasons, it’s hard not to feel isolated. Welcome to SUCCESSnotsabotage! Hope to connect again!

  23. Solretta Pearson

    This confirmed, blessed, and encouraged me in this hour. Thank you for your obedience in sharing.

    A sevenfold return to you

  24. Becky,
    I feel so blessed to have connected with you through twitter! It is definitely a God connection! This article is so insightful and awakening. Thank you for sharing your light and your gift!

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